09/10/2026
Over the last six years, God has done a deep work in me around identity, approval, fear of man, perfectionism, and the idols that can quietly drive us.
Somewhere along the way, I adopted the phrase “Holy Confidence.”
Not confidence in ourselves.
Not arrogance.
Not striving to prove our worth.
But the kind of confidence that comes from knowing whose we are, who God says we are, and what He has actually called us to do.
I’ve learned that you can genuinely love Jesus and still get caught up in mixed messages.
You can confuse unity with conformity.
You can confuse peacemaking with peacekeeping.
You can buy the lie that loyalty is a fruit of the spirit-it isn’t.
You can mistake influence with genuine community and impact.
You can confuse bigger with better & faster as more successful. It often isn’t. There is wisdom that comes from settling into a slower-more fruitful-pace with Jesus.
One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is this:
You can’t lead people where you’re unwilling to go yourself.
That means being willing to examine our own motives, blind spots, desires, and ambitions-and allowing God to bring them into the light.
I care deeply about people finding their true identity in Christ. I care about believers and leaders of believers-that they would live and lead from a place of fortified identity rather than insecurity. I care about families who refuse to sacrifice what matters most for the sake of being needed. I care about men and women becoming so compelled by the story of the gospel that comparison, competition, and status no longer have a hold on them. I want to see people walk in actual FREEDOM.
And I care enough to say this:
Don’t lose the plot.
Don’t lose Jesus in the pursuit of everything you think you’re supposed to build.
Don’t lose your family because you’re unwilling to do your own healing from childhood trauma and wounds.
Don’t lose your soul in the pursuit of being chosen.
Don’t sacrifice holiness on the altar of approval.
And don’t mistake bigger for better.
{more in comments}
