01/04/2024
TDLR - the first year of marriage is not your hardest year. I remember being told that it was going to be, and frankly, my wife and I had a breeze. For us, it was year 5. Now this is not the same for everyone, but this whole “brace for impact” idea of the first year is not a healthy way to walk into your marriage. Rather, I think the healthiest way is the practice of fighting for your marriage in those good days so that when those bad days come, the habit of fighting for your marraige is already there. It was something I wish I knew early on. If you were anyting like me, you spent so much energy and time on prepping for the wedding, that I probably went into my marriage under prepared, and under priortizing the things that mattered.
This is your reminder to prioritize your relationship and continue dating your spouse, whether you’re in the middle of wedding planning, or your 10th year of marriage. When it’s all said and done, you chose the person you walk with day in and day out. On days when it’s hard, continue to choose to love them and love yourself.
