08/06/2016
I’ve found that any time I fear being unwanted, or that I’m losing friends or that no one wants to be my friend
It’s usually because of this:
“I’m obsessing over myself”
My focus changes from wanting to be a friend to others to, wanting others to be my friend.
I stop giving and start taking.
When I’m focused on giving and being there for others, all the fears of being unwanted fade away.
I used to spend so much time worrying about being alone and wondering if other’s liked me. Coming from this head-space actually made it harder to connect with people.
Then I realized I could end other people’s loneliness, by being there for them.
I’ve found that the biggest gift I can give to others is this:
Listening and accepting them. Being there for them.
When I give that gift without wanting anything in return, I have no fear of being alone or unwanted.
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