06/13/2026
Building in the middle: relational value in an age of extraction.
The older I get, the less I believe our crisis is technological.
Technology is merely where the crisis reveals itself.
I fight against some forms of Ai and use Ai. I share photographs of places I love while worrying that attention may help destroy what makes them special. I build technology while criticizing the systems technology has produced.
For years I thought these contradictions made me a hypocrite.
Now I think they make me human.
The deeper conflict is not between technology and nature, privacy and convenience, growth and preservation, or even left and right.
It is between extraction and relationship.
Much of modern life is built on extraction.
Extracting attention from people. Extracting data from people. Extracting labor from people. Extracting value from communities. Extracting growth from finite systems.
We have become so accustomed to extraction that we often mistake it for progress.
Convenience arrived and we celebrated it.
What we did not notice was that ownership quietly became access, privacy became a setting, community became a platform, and identity became a product.
The bill came later.
It arrived as burnout. It arrived as loneliness. It arrived as endless updates. It arrived as distrust. It arrived as a feeling that life is somehow more connected than ever while simultaneously becoming less human.
I do not believe humanity's problem is that we lack intelligence.
I believe we have become extraordinarily good at building systems that optimize for measurable value while slowly destroying the relational value that makes life worth living.
Trust. Belonging. Stewardship. Privacy. Community. Meaning.
The things that matter most are often the hardest things to measure.