10/06/2026
WHO IS A GOOD MOTHER?
It's become a norm that children including the society have resorted to praising the mothers generally as good mothers, but we really need to understand who a good mother is, and those who really deserve those praises. It's not every woman that bear children that deserves to be praised, because many will rather destroy their children rather than build them up morally.
There's no doubt, that every mother goes through a lot of stress from conception to the gestation period, the pain of labour and the sleepless nights, but do these natural incidents give the room to generalize all women as good mothers to the extent of neglecting the fathers by the children and almost the society at large?
The big question comes, "Who is a good mother? Every mother carries pregnancy, every mother goes through the gestation period of 40 weeks, every mother passes through the labour pain and experiences sleepless nights to care for her baby, when the child cries to complain of one thing or the other, so those do not make any woman a good mother, because those are their natural endowments.
In the Holy Bible, 1Chronicles 4: 9, the was about a woman who passed through pains of labour but cursed her son for the pain, that was a simple indication of a bad mother, who cursed her son, and that scare of her curse held her child down till he remembered to run to God! Who is then a good mother?
Is it a woman who doesn't care to strictly correct her children, when they do wrong things, so won't be offended? Is it a woman who fights her husband for disciplining his children before the children?
Is it a woman who makes the children feel that their father hates them, and that is why he will alway try to correct them at their wrongs?
Is it a woman who only pretend to love the children by consoling them any time their father rebukes or disciplines them? Is it a woman who stands to defend her children in the public, even when it is clear her children are wrong?
Is it a woman who can't allow anyone to correct her children, including their teachers in schools?
I was walking along our street on a beautiful evening, when I saw two children trying to fight, or will I say that the older child was trying to beat up the younger one. When I enquired what was the matter, the older child narrated that the younger child was throwing stones at him, while he passed through their compound, and other children there confirmed that the younger child really threw stones to the boy. When the mother to the younger boy arrived the scene and started harassing the other boy for trying to beat up her son, I asked the woman, "Madam' 'why not find out the reason for this dispute here, if your son really did what he was accused of." The woman told me verbatim that her child does not make trouble, and that she knows her son, and it became a big challenge. Imagine, confidently defending a guilty child, and to that child, his mother is a good mother.
In most families, children had hated their fathers, because their mother had taught them that their father hated them through her defensive attitudes, by either quarrelling her husband against his disciplinary role, or defending the children that they have not done anything wrong to deserve rebukes from their fathers. Then the children in their little mind would think that their mother is doing them good, while their father is simply showing hatred. Such mothers, no matter how much care they show to their children, are bad mothers.
A good mother is a woman who show respect to her husband before her children. A good mother is one who teaches the children to obey and respect their fathers. A good mother is a woman who backs up her husband in training their children. A good mother is one who doesn't fight the husband for disciplining the children, especially before the children. A good mother is one who rebukes her children for going against their father's rules or instructions, weather the man is present or not. A good mother will always threaten to report any child doing wrongly to her husband for proper correction. A good mother fights for the general welfare of the entire family, without bias. A good mother does not speak against her husband before her children or other people. A good mother does not report a matter between her and her husband to the children, especially when they are still tender. A good mother does not tell her ugly experiences with her husband to her children - what happened when they were still kids. A good mother does not discriminate among her children, or between her children and the family dependants.
If you are a Christian mother, read proverbs 31: 10 - 31 and see that a good mother does no harm to her husband handles him, the children and other dependants as one family.
"Are you a good mother?
Is your wife a good mother?
Is your mother a good mother?
Is your sister a good mother?
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Dr Orih Emmanuel Njoba JP
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