25/07/2021
Self-care has become a catchphrase.
Many marketing strategies have determined “self-care” as bubble baths and chocolate so it’s really become code for “treat yourself.”
And yes, please treat yourself! You deserve to be treated well.
However, if you’re not accessing your innermost desires, it’s just a quick fix for immediate gratification that avoids addressing your deepest needs.
The issue with many of these “self-care” tips is that they’re devoid of any actual inner self and meaningful care for the long-term.
Sure, it’s nice to pamper yourself, but what’s more important is the ability to recognize that you need to so in the first place and then finding the time to do so.
There is also the superficial implication that if you look good on the outside, you’ll feel great on the inside.
I would argue the opposite is true. Once we start caring for ourselves and loving ourselves we’ll be more inclined to take care of all our needs, both inside and out.
So how should we talk about self-care? Well, we can start with the reality: self-care doesn’t always feel like self-care as it’s happening.
It can be challenging and hard and uncomfortable.
It can mean fitting in a workout even when you don’t feel like it.
Saying “no” when necessary.
And, lots of self-reflection and observation making you more self-aware and empowered to prioritize your needs.
Self-care is about doing the things that help us grow, heal and transform into even better, brighter versions of ourselves.
But it’s the ability to know and love yourself enough to do the work necessary to help you grow beyond whatever you’re going through—that’s real self care.
Massive love,
Misty