06/28/2026
For most of my professional life, I’ve had two parallel careers.
During the week, I worked in higher education, helping young adults prepare for their futures.
On weekends, I photographed weddings, documenting another important milestone in their lives.
For years, I thought of those as two very different professions.
Looking back, I realize they were guided by the same philosophy.
Whether I was meeting with a student or sitting down with an engaged couple, I never believed my role was to make decisions for people. My role was to listen, ask thoughtful questions, share what I’ve learned, and help them make confident decisions for themselves.
That philosophy has shaped not only the way I photograph weddings, but also why I’ve written books, created guides, recorded podcasts, and built resources for couples planning one of the most important days of their lives.
I recently put those thoughts together in a new essay called Why Conversation Comes Before the Camera. It isn’t really about photography. It’s about the thread that has connected my life’s work and why conversation, trust, and understanding have always come before the camera.
If you’re curious about the ideas behind my approach to wedding photography, I’d love for you to read it.
Why would a wedding photographer spend years writing books, recording podcasts, and creating guides for couples? This essay shares the philosophy that connects my work in higher education and wedding photography.