07/26/2024
I want to introduce you all to something I've been working on the last few months.
When Lance passed away, I knew I wanted to honor him in some way. He was an amazing boy and he truly is the love of my life...sorry Ed.
I also wanted it to be a space where other pet parents could go and share their grief and begin to normalize pet loss grief. We are a grief illiterate society and we do not like to talk about death. Trust me, before I started photographing senior and dying pets, it was incredibly awkward for me to talk about. Would I know what to say? What could I say? So, I often said nothing, which is the worst thing you can do when someone is experiencing grief in their life.
Pet loss grief is considered to be disenfranchised grief...a grief that is not validated by social norms. Pets are just pets, right? Why are you grieving over a dog? Pet guardians often mourn the loss of their pets more than they do other family members.
When we knew we were going to euthanize Lance, I started writing and recording my feelings. I've continue to do so here and there throughout the year. I'm ready to share those writings with you.
Letters to Lance is still in its infancy as I've been trying to figure out what I want the site to be...how to honor Lance's memory and help other pet guardians know their grief is normal and to help them find ways to work through their grief. It's one of the reasons why I have been working on my pet guardian end of life doula certificate and will continue with more education this year.
The site is letterstolance.com. I'd love for you to take a look and any feedback you have would be appreciated. As I said, it's still in the beginning stages, so know there will be more coming.
Thank you,
Lynn and Angel Lancy
www.letterstolance.com
I'd also like to thank the wonderful Carol Mudra for working with me on the logo for the site.
Letters to Lance offers support to pet parents after they lose a beloved pet. Our mission is to normalize pet loss grief and help families know they are not alone after their pet passes.