02/05/2023
Had the extraordinary honor of telling this beautiful family's story through my camera lens and supporting them as a student midwife. Their Beanie was born into the most loving arms ❤️ Click over and read more from Moonstone Midwifery about their journey.
When most people think of midwifery, they think of the babies. They think of those first sweet, undisturbed moments of motherhood. They think of the birth tub and the twinkle lights and the joy. Those "I did it!" moments get all the fame.
The truth is that being a midwife is so much more than supporting families as they meet their healthy, term newborn babies. Walking with someone through pregnancy also involves triaging those phone calls filled with uncertainty. To be a midwife means to provide reassurance and hope when possible, and realistic preparation when needed. Your midwife is there with you to cheer you on and celebrate your wins, and even more importantly, to hold space and grieve your losses alongside you.
Pregnancy loss is a very real part of midwifery care and an experience that most of my clients have had at some point during their childbearing journey. Not all of the babies that I care for in my practice are born at home. Not every first heartbeat that we hear brings the same reassuring gallop to our next visit. Although some of these babies may enter this world far too early, I know that every single one of them were loved deeply by their parents.
Each individual pregnancy brings its own untold story, unfolding as we work together to honor the time that you meet your beloved baby. I truly wish that those moments were exclusively filled with joy. Unfortunately, growing new life is complicated and mysterious, beyond any midwife or parent's ability to predict or control.
Although this wasn't the labor and birth that we would have hoped for, I was so grateful that I had the chance to support this family as they met their little Beanie. Born just a few weeks too early, he was perfect in every other way. Despite the sadness that filled the room, the special joy of finally meeting this little one was preserved in our hearts. This photo by captures a mother and father, filled with pride, saying hello and goodbye for the first and last time.
So much love to this family. Thank you for sharing this intimate moment, bringing awareness to late-term miscarriage and stillbirth. Holding you as you mourn a due date passed with empty arms.