It's Debbie-J

Debbie-jean is a Lifestyle Photographer/Writer, who advocates for People of Color + the LGBT 🎁 It's Debbie J is a lifestyle blog written by me.

This is where I share my passion for all the things I love + adore. Come peruse with me!

03/17/2024

Weather is getting right… grab your session.

Link: http://tave.com/dag-images/schedule

03/04/2023

If you’re not offering aid to improve my life, do not offer your opinions as it relates to how I live my life.

Play where it’s safe. It’s not here.

Love you. Mean it. I promise. ♥️

03/01/2023

Did you that color can affect your physical well-being? For example: The color red would cause someone to become anxious and increase their blood pressure while the color blue is associated with calm and decreases your blood pressure?

I think that’s why I fell in love with working with Dinah Eke] . Their love and use for colors will literally light up your feed. Check these ladies and give a follow. ♥️

👸🏾: Dinah Eke]
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02/16/2022

Life happens.

02/04/2022

Photo to capture your attention but really the lesson is in the caption… keep reading…

So, I’m currently in the season of “No” and you’re probably asking “wtf do you mean?”. Aight bet! Check this out…

Imagine being an overly anxious, super attaching, people pleasing, and ambitious human. Now pair that with the fear of abandonment and boom! What do you get? The old me.

If anything my last year of therapy has taught me and continues to teach me is to never dishonor desires, my needs, my feelings, my boundaries, the vision I have for myself and/or my business… most of all, never to dishonor myself, even when that MF*ker hurts or brings on a high level of anxiety or discomfort in any form.

Unlearning the need/want to be accepted and understood while learning to accept myself in full and validating my experiences, my feelings, and how I navigate this healing journey is a heavy and hard one.

I’m known by those closest to me drop everything if needed and sometimes that is to my detriment. In this season, I’m learning and actually saying “no” when I mean no. No if I don’t want to do something. No if I’m not prepared or in a space to show up. No to anything that requires me to dishonor me, my feelings, and/or circumstances in that moment.

There are those you care for that will say “you’ve changed” and Love, it’s okay. Because you’re not meant to stay the same. Only those that benefit from the unhealed version of ourselves will find fault in your “No”… they’ll find discomfort in your “no”… they’ll even find betrayal in your “no”. But at the end of the day, their feelings concerning your boundaries is not your business.

So, go on babes! Keep growing. Keep glowing. Keep moving. Your people are waiting on you, if they haven’t found you already. 😘

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01/21/2022

You’re allowed to switch up.
You’re allowed to grow.

I think as humans, we feel entitled to other people’s time, effort, energy, and space… completely forgetting you are not entitled to any of it all.

You’re not entitled to someone’s space (emotional, mental, or physical) because you are inconvenienced. You are not entitled to others dishonoring themselves, boundaries, and their needs for your comfort and convenience.

Are you deserving of amazing things, amazing people, and even more amazing experiences? Yes!

But there’s a fine line between “deserving” something and feeling “entitled” to something. Know the difference.

Ps: the real caption is the next slide.

As usual, take what you need and leave what you don’t.

Love ya! Happy Friday!

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12/28/2021

It’s been great. Have a wonderful rest of the holidays and a happy new year. 😘♥️

11/21/2021

The caption is in the next slide. ✌🏾

11/08/2021

Over the next 30 days, there are some epic changes coming (personal changes) and a bish is nervous and excited at the same goddam time because it’s been coming!

I’m not with the new year, new me bu****it. Im really just here trying to adult a little better. And as annoying and ghetto as it could be sometimes, I’m looking at this new jawn… this new shawty I’m becoming and I’m like… “Sis, who dis!?! I like her! Let’s keep her!” 🤣🤣

So heads up, if I’m slow on the texting, I’m probably ignoring you or busy and don’t feel like responding. 🤷🏾‍♀️😬😂!

For the folks working behind the scenes and not sharing every moment of your life on this platform: I see you! Keep doing the work! Keep loving on you. Keep showing up for you! You’re loved. You’re valued! Take whatever break you need to take and come back! My number/email/DMs ain’t changed… yet 😅.

Happy Monday!

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11/06/2021

If someone was to meet you today IRL, can you honestly say you’re what you post to be?

If the answer is no… why not?

11/04/2021

Unpopular opinion:

This place is not your journal.
It’s not your soapbox.
It’s a pathway to connecting with other humans without losing a sense of having a life that exists off this platform.

Use it wisely.
Bye 👋🏾.

10/26/2021

This last retrograde came in swinging and left punching to say the least. Although sis came through like a hurricane and tore sh*t up from the floor to ceiling, I walked away with a renewed sense of self and trusting my intuition, even when it hurts. Aside from retro being a gatorade, my trip this past weekend reaffirmed me in so many ways and reminded me of the power that abides within.

♠️ Trust YOURSELF. Trust YOUR GUT. Trust YOUR DECISIONS. Even when that s**t feels weird, uncomfortable, unnatural… learn to trust yourself and the choices you make. Only two things can happen; you either f*ck up and learn from it or boss up and navigate life differently. Moving differently means different results baby!

♣️ Your gifts will make room for you as long as you are being authentic and walking in alignment.

♥️ Us, Black Femmes, deserve to be taken care of. We constantly care for others, but who takes care of us? While standing in line at Zara, I was having a conversation where I realized allowing someone to show up for me and care for me makes me feel so uncomfortable. However, it also feels good knowing that when someone says they got you, they really do. We are deserving of this AS A NORM, NOT A LUXURY. Being loved on, cared for, and catered to should be the normal thing we experience without the trauma of feeling like we're not deserving or good enough. Also, you are deserving without having to suffer at the hands of another. Periodt!

♦️ Making friends as an adult is hard but being guarded is even harder. Don't miss out on great connections because you're loyal to toxicity. Your circle + attitude will predict your trajectory in life.

That's all I got for now. Take what you need. Leave what you don't.

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