01/12/2026
You never know what photo day might bring for your kiddos. So many factors can influence their mood, and feelings can definitely get amplified with big events that everyone is excited (or nervous) about. I’ve come to realize, over the last nine years that I’ve been photographing families, that helping kids get comfortable in front of the camera might actually be a secret superpower of mine. This is not to say I’ve never failed. Of course I have. But even I can say that I think my track record is pretty good. I received the most beautiful comment from a client this fall, after she received her photos: “I love these. I cannot believe you got those smiles through the grumps.” I knew my client, a mom of three boys, was worried about her kids’ moods that day, and we only had 30 minutes to work with, so not a lot of time to turn the smiles upside down. But we did it and we were both thrilled with the final photos.
Here are a few tips to help when your kids are feeling a little bit shy or fussy heading into a session:
1. Don’t pressure them. Let your kids take a little time to get comfortable in the setting, and with my presence. If we give them freedom to roam, to sulk, to sit it out, they tend to come around more quickly. Plus, you will treasure the photos I take of your kids simply being themselves, in all their complexity.
2. Be active and playful. A great way to redirect some gloomy energy is with play — a game of tag or London Bridge, for example. I also bring lots of playful energy with me, and utilize it when I get the sense we’re just about to turn the corner on a bad mood. Some of my favorite photographs feature that moment of transition: a child with a single tear running down their cheek but a huge smile on their face because they cracked — and we caught the moment.
3. Embrace the emotion. What we really want to do during your family session anyway is to capture your connection. So wipe their tears, give them a hug, let them curl up in your lap while you whisper silliness into their ear. You, and they, will obsess over these photos years down the road.