08/30/2026
I’ve been saying for decades, photographers, whether they know it or not, you’re always saying something in your images. We all have a voice & there are 3 themes/emotions that show up consistently. The first 2 are you at your core. The 3rd thing/message/voice is your side that changes over time as you get older, wiser, or go through significant change as a human.
Right before I got on a plane home from Mexico last month I decided to getting to commemorate the 6 incredible days I spent there with ink. I didn’t research much. Jillian Mitchell suggested her friend Nicté who she’s known since she was 7, she’s 26 now. So I leaned in & trusted. She shared her work but I knew I’d just get there & know what I was about to put on my chest.
I already have a pretty significant piece on my chest regarding killing my anger. So to add to it was pretty bold. I got there, flipped through her flash book & chose 3 Mexican masks.
As I was getting inked she brought up how it was funny that she felt like she didn’t have a voice. I was pretty taken a back as it was clear she did to me.
Then she says “ya know everyone does & they’re saying 3 things always, whether they know it or not, & that third one is always changing”.
I had her stop & stood straight up & told her to expand as I’d never heard anyone else articulate this except me at my workshops.
She said her voice is grounded, open, & sarcastic. EXACTLY like the 3 masks I had picked out without knowing.
What are my 3 things I’m constantly saying in my work? 1 - connection, it is everything to me. I know people are curious how I get people to look at me the way they do and the answer is I connect with them even if for 1/1000th of a second. 2 - FOMO, this rules my life. I live like everyday is my birthday or Christmas, if you’re into that kind of thing. Fun is a close second to connection & I want my viewers to feel it. 3 - I used to think it was quiet strength & while that might be true the third thing is actually feeling safe. I’ve created safe spaces in my life, my work, my circles. That quiet strength is actually just the power people can step into because they feel safe.
Photography is just therapy guys.