05/19/2026
I got asked the other day what is a Della? I saw it posted on some of your posts...
At The Citadel a "Della" is a warm and affectionate way of saying a cadet's mom. What does that word really mean to someone that is a Citadel mom?
It means we had to leave them at the battalion gates on matriculation day and we couldn't help them. Some of us got to see their barracks but walked away feeling sick to our stomachs knowing for 7 days we wouldn't hear from them and their phones would be silent going through "hell week", now rephrased to something that doesn't sound so bad! We knew the sound in their voice was off but couldn’t or didn’t say anything to us for fear of not wanting to worry us or let us know they didn’t make a great choice and are dealing with consequences.
We watched them leave their childish ways and hit the grindstone, lose their hair, their identity and chose a path most of us as moms can't imagine choosing. They didn't choose the regular route of college life, but a path towards leadership and testing of their character in an environment of harsh criticism that holds a "mental game" that they must master to move forward and walk out of those gates as a graduate.
We watch them their k**b year endure hardships that hurt our mom's heart so deeply we can't eat, sleep and worry day and night; some lose connection with them and stand in the shadows while we watch them change, endure and grow into strong Citadel cadets. Any Citadel mom that meets another mom has a deep, quiet, heartfelt understanding, as we too have gone "through the fire", just in a different way; learning to let go and Let God. Understanding they were His children first before we were their moms. We pray, we support, we love, we are die hard and love all cadets like our own. This bond is fierce and doesn't end after graduation. Some of these moms held me up during the hardest days. Ansley Harrison Evans Zoe Prince Becky Aiton
Cheers to all Dellas and how we too have changed and learn to trust that our cadets will persevere and have the iron clad backing of The Citadel for life, not easily earned, and honored with deep respect. Hats off to us moms who also bloomed, changed and successfully supported our cadets to fly high into the world!