05/13/2026
With my first, I prepared for the nursery. The clothes. The swaddles. The baby gear. Holding my baby. But I didn’t truly prepare for birth itself. I thought watching labor videos online meant I was ready. I gave birth during Covid, when access to childbirth education and support felt so limited, and I went into labor honestly not understanding the physiological, mental, and emotional complexity of birth, recovery, and postpartum.
And the sad part is… I still meet so many women today going into their first birth with little to no childbirth education or support. No course. No doula. No real understanding of their options, their rights, what interventions may look like, how postpartum recovery actually feels, or how to build a birth plan that acts as a guide instead of something they feel devastated over if things change.
That hurts me deeply. And it is one of the biggest reasons I do what I do now.
I truly believe every first time mom deserves a doula. Honestly, I believe it should be covered and accessible to every family in this country whether they choose to use one or not. From an evolutionary standpoint, women were never meant to birth alone. Women have always supported women through birth and postpartum.
By the time I was pregnant with my twins, I had started studying to become a doula myself. I learned about labor physiology, advocacy, trauma, informed consent, perinatal mental health, postpartum mental health, recovery, and what true support actually looks like before, during, and after birth.
During my twin pregnancy, I was pushed toward a C-section constantly. I was told the risks over and over. But I also knew my body. I had a healthy pregnancy. No blood pressure issues. Full term twins. Healthy babies. I had already birthed an 8 lb 14 oz baby vaginally. And after experiencing birth trauma the first time, I knew that if I wanted a vaginal twin birth, I would have to advocate hard for it.
So I did.
And it changed everything.
I’ll be sharing both of my birth stories on Substack (going live next week ✨). I honestly cannot wait to finally tell them fully 🤍