06/22/2026
Ok I just watched Netflix's Maternal Instinct and I have not stopped thinking about it since last night!
I won't get into the details (it's heavy, you can look it up if you want the full story), but the short version is that it's about a woman who had just started a side business doing wedding photography and used the trust she built with a couple to get dangerously close to them. As a photographer in my 14th wedding season, it hit different than it might have for some people.
Here's the part I can't shake. She wasn't a stranger who broke into someone's house. She was hired. Welcomed into the family. Fully trusted.
And that's kind of the whole job, isn't it? Photographers don't just show up and take pictures and leave. We get invited into your wedding day, your newborn's first week, your business, your family. We're in the room for the good stuff, the chaotic stuff, the happy tears stuff, and that only works because YOU decided we've earned a spot in there!
I take that seriously. Like, genuinely. I've been doing this for 17 years (with a little break in there..) and I've built my whole business on being someone you can actually vet, not just someone you found in a Facebook ad five minutes before you needed a photographer. So if you're hiring anyone, for your wedding, your headshots, your kid's senior pictures, family photos, whatever it is, please do a little homework first. I promise it's not insulting to us, the good ones want you to ask questions!
A few things worth checking before hiring someone:
- How long have they actually been doing this, and can you see proof of it. (This should be easy, but with AI in the mix, people are getting away with a lot these days...)
- Do they have real reviews you can verify, not just five-star quotes floating on their own website.
- Are they licensed and insured.
- Do they actually have roots and a reputation in your community, or just a nice grid.
Most photographers got into this because we love meeting new people and building connections. We love, love, and family and preserving those milestone moments. That's exactly why I do this. But trust should be earned through actual transparency, not handed over because someone owns a nice camera and a moody Lightroom preset.
Choose someone who's put in the time to build a real reputation. It matters way more than you'd think, and your future self (and your photos/ family heirlooms) will thank you!!! | www.melcolvinphotography.com
RI branding photographer specializing in headshots, weddings & portraits. Based in Pawtucket, serving all of Rhode Island & Massachusetts.