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07/19/2026

This week I turn 41, and this is what I want..:

I want more women to stop waiting for permission to enjoy their own fu***ng lives.

I spent a lot of years being capable. Responsible. Dependable. Productive. I knew how to hold everything together, but somewhere in there, I forgot that I was also allowed to feel alive.

And this version of me?
She isn’t fearless. She just refuses to let fear make every decision.

She dances even when she looks ridiculous. She wears the thing. Follows the weird idea. Changes her mind. Takes up space. Lets joy be reason enough.

So my birthday ask is this:

Do one thing this week that makes you feel wildly, unapologetically alive.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic. Put on your favorite song and dance for three minutes. Wear red lipstick to the grocery store. Take yourself for coffee. Say yes. Say no. Do the thing you keep saving for some future version of you.
Then tell me what you did so I can hype you the f**k up. Because I am the ultimate hype girl!

Your life is not a dress rehearsal, baby. Go live it.

06/22/2026

I think too many women have been taught that healing has to be calm and quiet.

Sometimes healing looks like shaking your ass on a dance floor, laughing until your stomach hurts, and remembering how to play again.

That’s exactly why I created my retreat.

We’ll do the deep work. We’ll have the meaningful conversations. We’ll breathe, move, connect, create, and probably cry a little.

But we’ll also dance, laugh, get a little feral, and remember what it feels like to be wildly alive.

If your soul has been craving more joy, freedom, and aliveness... Come play with us.

Comment RETREAT to get on the list for when I release the applications in July!!!!

06/21/2026

The older I get, the more I realize that joy and struggle aren’t opposites. They’re roommates.

I can be deeply grateful for the life I’ve built and still have moments where I feel exhausted, scared, uncertain, emotional, or completely off my game.

The problem isn’t the hard days. The problem is believing they shouldn’t exist.

Stop waiting for a version of life where everything is perfect before you let yourself admit you’re happy.

You can be thriving and struggling. Healing and hurting. Grateful and frustrated. The two can coexist.

That’s not failure.
That’s being human. ❤️

06/16/2026

Maybe the greatest gift we can give each other isn’t advice. Maybe it’s embodiment. Maybe it’s being so unapologetically ourselves that other women remember they can be too.

Because every time you choose joy, freedom, play, self-expression, rest, pleasure, or authenticity... you’re giving another woman permission to do the same.

Not because she needs your permission. Because she needs a mirror.

And sometimes that’s enough to change everything.

06/16/2026

06/10/2026

Honestly I woke up in a fighting kind of mood. So I’m calling you out right now for the way you talk to yourself. Because if you heard someone saying that s**t to a friend, you’d be ready to fight too.

So bitch, I DARE YOU, to walk by that mirror and tell yourself you look good. Do it. Because I think you look 🔥🔥🔥